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Reading list: Dale Carnegie

How to Win Friends And Influence People.

It’s what you want, right?

To be able to effortlessly inspire confidence and attraction, to make friends quickly and easily, and be seen as important.

In my next series of posts, I am going to be breaking down the core messages of Dale Carnegie’s seminal book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Many accomplished people, both in the manosphere and out, have recommended this book and it is my pleasure to tell you it is well worth the read.

I highly recommend you pick up this book, since you’ll read the paper version 10.7% faster than online, but considering you’re using a laptop or mobile to read this, I’ll offer the online version as well. (It’s free.)

How to Win Friends And Influence People.pdf

I’ll be updating more soon, starting with the three fundamental techniques in handling people.

Keep Gaming,

Harkness.

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40 Books to Read

When I was a kid, I used to read voraciously. Mostly teen adult books, mind you, but fiction that definitely helped keep my spelling and understanding of English among the best in my class. As a teen, and like many other people, I slowly lost interest as reading became assigned solely to school materials and proofreading assessments, and television and the internet took it’s place as the main source of entertainment.

When I began to look on the internet for answers to my problems regarding relationships, I didn’t realise that the subsequent avalanche of articles, novels and informative books about to be levelled my way would help me become a better man. How could I? This was stuff outside of the television, old and new wisdom reimagined and repackaged for the new generations. From solvemygirlproblems.com to The Rational Male to the rest of the manosphere and back again, I found all of the information I had always touched on in experience but never fully understood. The only catch? I had to start using my brain again and actually read and apply it, instead of watching a short how to Youtube video.

Over the course of over a year now, I have read and digested nearly every Rational Male article I could find as well as Shark’s seminal posts on Game and the Red Pill. Throughout these posts, I have found many references and recommendations for source material to read to better understand the concepts presented. I was encouraged to critically reflect on what I read, see the research linking it, and decide for myself. I began reading additional books, skimmed over case studies looking for evidence of bias or influence, and devoured any information I could find on intergender dynamics. I had unleashed my inner bookworm, and he was starving.

That being said, I still have a long way to go in fitness, understanding the world around me and myself, and most certainly Game.

So with that in mind, I have compiled a series of books in different genres that I intend to read over the course of the next year or so, depending on how fast I finish them. I’m going to try and take a page from Danger And Play’s Don’t Waste Your Twenties;

In the meantime, make use of your 20′s. Your brains are fast. You won’t realize how fast until they slow down.

Even if your job is demanding, you should be finishing two books each month. Although non-fiction is superior to fiction, reading something is better than nothing. Do not let the best be the enemy of the good.” ~ Danger And Play


THE LIST

 

Psychology/ Game

The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi (Always good to refresh)

30 second Psychology by Christian Jarrett

Why Men Need Sex and Women Need Love by Allan and Barbara Pease

The Way Of Men by Jack Donovan

The Gentleman’s Guide to Picking Up Women by Ian Ironwood

The Blank Slate: The Modern Denial of Human Nature by Steven Pinker

Tutorial

What every BODY is saying by Joe Navarro and Marvin Karlins

How To Make Small Talk by Mark Yuhas

The James Bond Cold Reading (Speed Learning) by Julian Moore

The Man Plan by James Kerley

Super Memory by Shakuntala Devi

10 STEPS TO BREAKING INTO ACTING by Matt Newton

Acting by Irwin Ossa

Neurobics Create your Own Brain Training Program

Think Smart Act Smart by D Bridger and C D Lewis

150 Things Every Man Should Know by Gareth May

Philosophy

The Art of War by Sun Tzu

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius

The Genesis Enigma by Andrew Parker

Philosophy in Minutes by Marcus Weeks

What does it All Mean? by Thomas Nagel

The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama (Not Buddhist, but it helps to get a different perspective.)

Widening the Circle of Love by the Dalai Lama

Science

How to Live Forever and 34 Other Really Interesting Uses of Science by Alok Jha

Science 1001 by Paul Parsons

Sci-fi /Fantasy

The Novice by Trudi Canavan

The Eye of the World (The Wheel of Time) by Robert Jordan

Small Shen by Kylie Chan

Vampire’s Blood by Darren Shan

Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde by Robert Louis Stevenson

Galileo’s Dream by Kim Stanley Robinson

Enthralled by Marr and Armstrong

Control Point by Myke Cole

Little Vampire Women by Louisa May Alcott and Lynn Messina

Galaxy Battle League Part One by Tim O’Bree

Drama/THRILLER/Romance

Persuasion by Jane Austen

The Inferno by Dan Brown

The Professor by Charlotte Bronte

Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte

Darkly Dreaming Dexter by Jeff Lindsay


 

Needless to say, there are some you will recognize and some you will not. I picked up a lot of these through booksales where they caught my eye, but a few were specifically suggested by popular Manosphere authors, so I’ll probably be knocking those off the list soon.

Depending on how they read, I’ll upload a review once I’ve finished a book. Hopefully that will mean more regular updates for you guys.

Keep Gaming,

Harkness.

Announcement

My brother took the Red Pill yesterday.

So proud.

Cheers to Rollo Tomassi at The Rational Male for his incredible book of the same name, The Rational Male.

The dangers of Crowd-Funding (Part 1)

The Anita Sarkeesian Debacle

When it comes to a crowd funding project, there are always going to be risks. Costs trickle down, and sometimes projects get abandoned. Other times, the ultimate results of that crowd funding are disappointing considering the amount of money that people put into a project going in. One example of such a response to disappointment in terms of bang for your buck is the Anita Sarkeesian case, where after generating almost $160, 000 in donations (mostly in response to the backlash against her videos about the lack of strong women being portrayed in video games, a realm inherently dominated by men) she has released thus far five videos, apparently hired a producer and assistant, and improved her lighting and camera set.

Here are screenshots from her old series (non-funded) to the new series;

Source; Fruzsina Eördögh, readwrite.com

So it’s fair to say she has spent some effort and money on better equipment for her show. That said, her overall performance hasn’t impressed me that much. Anyone who knows me knows I’m on the close side of the Red Pill, but even listening to her videos, it doesn’t seem like that much has really been improved aside from the lighting and camera quality, along with some quality editing that wouldn’t take much more than a dedicated editor with some minimal skills at adobe premiere or another eight hundred dollar program. Taking into account the assistant and producer, which could account for a considerable sum, there is an understandable and healthy curiosity as to what exactly the money has been spent on in terms of improving the series.

Here’s a link to the first of her video essays on the portrayal of women in video games;

Overall, it’s a little less than what you’d expect in terms of a $160, 000 dollar budget. However, Fruzsina Eördögh of readwrite.com, offers something between a defense in terms of the harsh criticism and trolling Anita received after proposing her series (which lead to it’s story becoming infamous and enabled a greater portion of the population to donate) and a request to Anita to explain how she spent this exorbitant amount of money, considering her goal budget was only a meager $6, 000 dollars. Obviously the project has been updated since then, and Fruzsina even goes to lengths to describe that she is interested in what Anita is trying to do, but points out that it would serve her, and her fans, best to learn how much a project like this takes to get off the ground for those willing or wanting to try it themselves.

What happened to the rest of the $160,000?

Answering this question would certainly knock down the only legitimate point made by Sarkeesian’s online stalkers. Much more important, though, a good financial breakdown of Sarkeesian’s Kickstarter project would also help women video bloggers, who struggle with sexism every day on YouTube, better understand the financial costs of creating a successful video series. (Actually, it would be helpful for anybody dreaming of a career on YouTube). ~ Fruzsina Eördögh, readwrite.org

Setting aside the questions surrounding her funding, what she’s essentially giving out is her opinion on games. Which would seem fair, aside from the fact that for the scope of her video’s fundraising she seems to just name tropes in video games and explore how unfair they are to women.

Thunderfoot, an anti-feminist  Youtuber  produced a detailed response to Anita’s article;
In it he criticizes;

Ultimately he remarks that the basic aims of these games were designed not to keep feminists happy, or to  subjugate women, but to make it fun for guys, the majority demographic, to play, enjoy and buy. (According to Entertainment Software Association’s survey in 2013, even now 55% of gamers are men; a clear majority, let alone back in the first days of the Gameboy in 1989 when only 3% of gamers were women. At that time, why would developers bother catering to such a niche crowd, when it was so much easier to cater to the tastes of the 97% of men who were supplying the majority of their income? )

I’m of the opinion most of the money was donated sympathetically for the death threats and abuse she received over her plans, which obviously begs the question;  should Anita Sarkeesian show how she spent this money? Andres Alvarez visits this in his article A Misunderstanding on Anita Sarkeesians Kickstarter.

Let’s compare this to a similar scenario. A publisher might know they are releasing a book in the future. They can offer to let people pre-order the book. This can help them know how many to print and can be beneficial because if they know there is enough demand they can get a cheaper price on production. The pre-order people usually get a discount. Everyone’s happy! (Unless you pre-order George R.R. Martin books, a mistake I won’t be making again) But let’s be clear. You are a customer here. You are only  buying a product, you are just committing to buy it in the future. ~ Andres Alvarez, nerdy.quora.com

Aside from an aversion to a great series, his claim makes enough sense; the whole aim of the Kickstarter project is to provide people looking to fundraise money for their private projects. And the whole purpose of the kickstarter page is just that; to convince others to donate to help make it a reality, or to purchase a “reward” and in doing so help them make their project a reality. The people who donated weren’t investors, and so aren’t necessarily entitled to a detailed report of how she spent that money.

However, it would be honest.

Considering that it’s very possible a large sum of her proceeds came from people who wanted her to go ahead with her idea and make it a reality, it would be a decent thing to do for people looking to fund their Youtube projects; after all, Freddie Wong, who raised over $600, 000 for his Youtube project, Video Game High School, was praised for his comprehensive infographic detailing how the impressive funds were managed in making his video series, which seems to have a surprisingly high production value.
Here he gives a basic outline of where the project’s funds went, split between various areas like kickstarter reward fulfillments, production equipment, crew, post production, stunts and location fees.

Is Anita obligated to provide a basic list illustrating where exactly the money has been spent? No, but at the same time, if she wanted to take the major argument her detractors have against her, it would be quite simple if she has nothing to hide.

All said and done, she does deserve some credit for at least putting her money where her mouth is and outlining a possible video game based on the “strong woman ideal” she is trying to encourage amongst gamers.  (Although technically she’s reinforcing the monarchy by destroying the council and, assumedly, resuming absolute leadership over her lands.)

Next article we’ll be looking at the Lex Project Controversy and what you can do to get the most bang for your buck from a crowdfunded project like Kickstarter or Indiegogo.