Review of the Year; 2013

It’s important to look back on the year you’ve just had. If you can do so with no regrets, you are living life to the fullest. If you do have regrets, it’s a great learning experience. As Confucius says,

” By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.” ~Confucius

In this respect, we should aim to be noble as we end one year and begin the next.

When I was a boy, my father brought myself and my younger brother out to the small veranda out on the second storey. There was barely space enough for the three of us, but he wanted to make a point. At the time you could see the New Year’s Eve fireworks from the Brisbane city River from our house, and as they took to the sky and exploded, he said to us;

“Close your eyes. Reflect on the year you have had. Think about everything, everything you’ve done and wanted to do, and what you want to achieve. Don’t hold onto regrets, and embrace the New Year.”

My father is a stoic man, who doesn’t speak without something important to say so I took those words to heart (though after 10 or so years the exact wording escapes me, that was the gist of it). America may have one day to go before they countdown to the New Year, but in Australia it’s Crunch Time. I write this blogpost as a way both for myself to reflect and to allow you, the reader, to reflect with me.

What year have you had?

This year has been eventful. I swallowed the Red Pill. Roosh correctly predicted that this year ‘the manosphere goes viral’. The ABC 20/20 debacle proved the media is biased. However you view it, Tuthmosis’ ‘24 signs she’s a slut‘ and ‘5 reasons to date a girl with an eating disorder‘ put Return of Kings on the map (and for many feminists, the butcher’s block) with these articles. ‘Fat shaming week happened’. I have my disagreements with ROK on certain subjects, but I see enough focus on Positive Masculinity that makes viewing the site worth it. I discovered Rollo Tomassi’s the Rational Male. I read the Game.

And that’s just the Manosphere-related stuff.

Miley Cyrus wrecked her career. Kanye almost decided not to go for a pre-nup, despite what he would tell you in his best song ‘Gold Digger.’ And a whole bunch of other stuff that no-one outside the celebrity world really cares about. Oh, and the Doctor regenerated.

For myself, it’s been a year of coming into awareness  and understanding. I went from PUA literature like The Game to it’s more powerful incarnation the Red Pill. And I’ve suddenly become aware of all the small things I was doing wrong (and right) and made the decision to fix these.

I imagine your year has been quite eventful as well.

What did you achieve?

Overall, I dress better. People now compliment me on my dress sense, and I’ve had a few less fashion conscious friends ask me for help. I’m much more direct and social, and I’ve learned the benefits to getting everything I want. I’ve established a reputation among my university friends, and I’ve started a blog.

What do you want to achieve?

I want to improve myself. ‘Socially‘, ‘Physically,‘ and ‘Mentally‘. There’s no excuse, particularly as ‘MIT puts all of their course materials up for free on their website.‘ I’m also getting myself more into my film aspirations, with four independent short films under my belt I’m moving onwards and upwards from here.


I’ve got regrets. I think that it’s very hard to live in a way for a year where you don’t regret at least one thing that you did. That’s just the price of hindsight. But as many approaches that I’ve messed up, as many dumb things I’ve said, or bad jokes made; I’ve learned from it all. And in saying that, I think I can honestly admit my mistakes, and learn from them.

In summing, I’d like to borrow a quote from John Barrowman;
“Yet if I was asked to do this again – in fact, if I was ever asked to repeat any of my experiences – I’d have to say, fuck it, bring them on. I’ve no regrets.
This is what it means to be alive.”

Close your eyes. Reach in deep. Think about the year you’ve had, your triumphs, your fumbles, your realisations. Empty yourself of regret. Make a new promise to yourself, one to be a better you. Ask yourself these questions, once a year, every year, and honestly apply yourself throughout the year, to be better than you were before.

Be a better you.

“We all change. When you think about it, we’re all different people all through our lives.
And that’s OK, that’s good, as long as you keep moving, as long as you remember all the people that you used to be. I will not forget one line of this, not one day, I swear. I will always remember when the Doctor was me.” ~Matt Smith’s last words as the Doctor.


2 responses to “Review of the Year; 2013”

  1. AverageMarriedDad says :

    Nice writing, keep it up! I started on the same path as you too. The Game was one of the first books I read, and it went on from there. No end to learning.

    • silverharkness says :

      Thanks AMD, it means a lot. I’m going to get more involved in my writing this year, helps I feel to structure my thinking and conversation.

      And you’re right, one of the things I’ve learned from a study in education is that you never stop learning.

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